Shop Forum More Submit  Join Login

I'm 20 in about 2 weeks, is it ridiculous that im still getting grounded? 

91%
20 deviants said yes! your'e surely old enough to make your own decisions.
9%
2 deviants said no, it seems fine.

Devious Comments

:iconhexen109:
Hexen109 Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014
Just depends on the nature of the grounding and the position of the groundee really, if your parents are worried with you then you could try talking to them and getting to an arrangement rather than getting grounded.
Reply
:iconktechnicolour:
KTechnicolour Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I opted for the 'screw you I'm old enough to do what I want' option. I think they've realised they can't stop me.
Reply
:iconhexen109:
Hexen109 Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014
They are your parents though, they are worried about something and guess they don't know how to reach you another way.
Reply
:iconktechnicolour:
KTechnicolour Featured By Owner Oct 22, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
theyve never tried just asking nicely.
Reply
:iconhexen109:
Hexen109 Featured By Owner Oct 22, 2014
Well I can't do much of anything really, I barely know you and have no idea who your parents are but I still think talking to them and reaching a compromise would be better.
Reply
:iconktechnicolour:
KTechnicolour Featured By Owner Oct 23, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
*shrugs*
Reply
:iconlycanthrochick:
lycanthrochick Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Yes unless you're a pilot
Reply
:iconktechnicolour:
KTechnicolour Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I am no pilot D:
Reply
:iconlycanthrochick:
lycanthrochick Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
Pilot... grounded... I'll leave you to figure it out x3
Reply
:iconktechnicolour:
KTechnicolour Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I got it, but alas. I don't have a car let alone a plane.
Reply
:icondoggirlkari:
DogGirlKari Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I would say yes, and in terms of age that is a little silly. However, if you are living at home, or somewhere for free under the good graces of those who own said home, you are somewhat obligated to follow what they decree. I mean, as an adult, if you don't like it, move out.
Reply
:iconktechnicolour:
KTechnicolour Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
If I could afford it I would. But my parents earn too much for student finance to give me enough money.
Reply
:icondoggirlkari:
DogGirlKari Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I understand that, hang in there, someday you'll be free. :)
Reply
:iconktechnicolour:
KTechnicolour Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Soon I hope!
Reply
:icondoggirlkari:
DogGirlKari Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm rooting for ya!
Reply
:iconktechnicolour:
KTechnicolour Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
^-^
Reply
:icondoggirlkari:
DogGirlKari Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Its the job of an Alpha to support her pack. ;)
Reply
:iconktechnicolour:
KTechnicolour Featured By Owner Oct 22, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
but im a lone wolf! :P
Reply
(1 Reply)
:iconwhyme777x:
WhyMe777x Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Age-wise, yeah, that's pretty ridiculous. Saying someone has to stay in their room or not watch TV or get internet or be in bed by a certain time, that's pretty silly to say to another adult, regardless of whether or not they're your child. But "getting grounded" as a general concept can happen at any age; I think it's really mostly related to where you're living and/or financial arrangements, more than how old you are. (I'm about to say "you" a lot, I don't actually mean you, just a person in general) If you're at an hourly job and get unprofessional with a customer, you can get temporarily cut hours or wages or even demotion until they feel you've proved your worth. If you live in an apartment complex or rent a home or even have a mortgage, if they catch wind that certain living standards haven't been met, they can give notice of inspection to make sure you fix the place up before they send you an eviction notice. Hell, if my mom moves in with me in her golden years, I'm gonna let her know very clearly that she has to follow my rules while she's under my roof just like I had to while under hers.

If you can support yourself domestically and financially with no one to answer to, that's the only real independence possible (and even then, you still have to pay taxes and follow health codes and building codes to keep the government appeased).

When I was 20 I was in the Navy, living on the ship and receiving monthly pay for fulfilling my duties. If a person fails to follow their rules, they go to see the Captain (literally referred to as "the Old Man") for punishment, and most of the time they're put on "restriction" (essentially grounded) for up to 4 months. They can't ever leave the ship (the house), have to muster multiple times a day (to make sure they haven't snuck out), have to be in bed a short while after last muster (a curfew), and of course they lose an amount of their pay (or cut their allowance) for the infringement. Screw up again during that time, and the restriction can be started all over again, given even more time, or just kicked out of the Navy entirely. Most Captains follow a third strike standard, as an unwritten rule, but if before that third strike they deem a person unfixable or the infringement especially egregious, they'll usually go straight to Bad Conduct Discharge.
Reply
:iconktechnicolour:
KTechnicolour Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Again, if I had the money I'd move out. The annoyance is the reasons my parents give for giving me and my brother different rules....stuff like cause I'm a female or cause I don't drive.
Reply
:icongin93:
Gin93 Featured By Owner Edited Oct 21, 2014
I moved out and yet they still have some control over what I do , it's a bit hard to make parents stop being parents. And yes it also depends if your still living with them too.
Reply
:iconktechnicolour:
KTechnicolour Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
If I moved out and was fully self supporting, I'd barely even talk to them. :\
Reply
:icongin93:
Gin93 Featured By Owner Edited Oct 21, 2014
Oh I'm not fully self supporting yet

Im sure you can try to works things out with them if it's borthering you 
im sorry I'm just trying to help based on what I know :(
Reply
:iconktechnicolour:
KTechnicolour Featured By Owner Oct 22, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
theyll realise soon enough they cant stop me.
Reply
:iconwhyme777x:
WhyMe777x Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Sure sure, that makes sense :nod: The female bit seems quite unfair; it's not like it can be considered a fault (which seems super chauvanistic), or that it's something that can be changed. The driving part, gonna need to work on that. But it's like you said, gotta have money to get a car, need that to get a job, need that to get money... it's a vicious cycle :depressed:

But hey, that last comment wasn't a "you should do as you're told" sorta thing, I was just saying there isn't a time in life when 'being grounded' really goes away, it just gets a different name attached to it. I sympathize with you regarding parental annoyances; I'm always having to tiptoe around so as to not annoy my stepdad in some unfathomable way, and hope he doesn't come one step closer to convincing my mom to have me move out -.-''
Reply
:iconktechnicolour:
KTechnicolour Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
It's a load of bolocks. They can't actually stop me doing stuff and going out unless they stop me going to Uni.
Reply
Add a Comment:
 

Poll History